Using Self Talk to Manage Your Anger

"Pins and needles, needles and pins; it's a happy man that grins." These classic words were made famous by Jackie Gleason in his role as Ralph Kramden in the 1950s TV sitcom, The Honeymooners.

So why in the world was America's favorite bus driver so intent on repeating this phrase whenever he was on the verge of losing his temper? Quite simple, by changing his self-talk or inner conversation with himself, Ralph Kramden was using a popular anger management strategy that continues to be widely used today.

While Ralph Kramden's "Pins and Needles" may not be the mantra that works best for you, perhaps you can develop your own self-talk or inner conversation to use when agitated or provoked. It can be something as simple as, "Relax. Take it easy. I can handle this."

By modifying your self-talk during moments of anger or frustration, you will be more inclined to take the "high road" and avoid conflicts and negative consequences. Although changing the inner conversation with yourself may feel unnatural at first, it eventually will become second nature.

So practice, practice, practice! All the while, keep in mind that your words are extremely powerful and will ultimately hold the key to managing your anger.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute - Minnesota Anger Management can assist you with your anger, stress and/or aggressive behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
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