The WIN Institute

A Truly Valuable Experience – A Testimonial

2012-01-16T15:43:00.000-08:00

I have just completed the 16-week Anger Management course at The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management. I could not recommend it more highly.

For men who struggle with anger, who handle anger inappropriately, and are enduring the consequences of those difficulties, this course offers both invaluable tools for managing one’s anger and meaningful tools for improving one’s life. Rather than being an additional negative consequence that one must suffer through, this course turned out to be a genuine opportunity for personal growth that helped restore my hope that my life could get better.

There are several aspects that account for the value that I found in the program: the facilitator, the material, the presentation, and the atmosphere. Each of these enabled me personally, and others that I witnessed, to benefit from the course.

It all begins with the facilitator, Steven Clark. I have found myself describing him as a very “solid” individual. He is the type of person that one immediately respects and likes.

Steven has a talent for creating a safe environment and drawing out participant’s thoughts. Repeatedly I found myself observing that he genuinely cares about others and wants to see them succeed. As Steven guided us through each segment of the course, he consistently brought us back to his larger concern: how can we as individuals change our thinking and behavior to improve ourselves and to achieve more of want we wanted in life.

As we studied the course material, Steven challenged us to think more deeply about ourselves and observe the internal dynamics that led to one’s anger. He has a way of asking the right questions to guide one in probing oneself and gaining a greater understanding of oneself. He would then help us connect the dots, bringing the conversation back to how our internal process and behavior patterns affects achieving life goals.

Once again, he created a secure space in which participants felt comfortable sharing their thoughts and self-observations. With participants of diverse ethnicities, educational levels, cultural backgrounds, careers paths, and age groups, Steven established a level playing field in which everyone was regarded as an equal, and everyone’s input was given equal courtesy, respect, and consideration.

The material itself offered useful techniques to help one preempt their anger, diffuse their anger, or cope with their anger. All of which was based upon gaining personal insight into one’s thoughts and emotions. The presentation is best described as a “multi-media” approach. We constantly shifted between slide presentations, reading from the workbook, making notes in handouts, and group discussion. This shifting of approaches kept the sessions engaging.

In my experience, The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management is aptly named. It became clear to me that the intent was to help men succeed, not just in managing their anger, but to help them to succeed in life. The focus was not negative, merely upon the mistakes one has made; and the focus was not narrow, merely upon anger management; but the broader perspective was upon how one can make changes to become a larger person and to realize one’s life goals. --- Steven, New Hope

For more information about The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, CDVF, COAMF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Having An Open Mind - A Testimonial

2011-10-31T09:37:00.000-07:00

I attended this 16 week Anger Management program during the summer and partial fall of 2011. My initial response to this forced attendance was to resist any thought of change. My thoughts were that I wasn’t angry and I didn’t need this program. I was put in an unfortunate situation and it was caused by reaction. Not anger. “I’m not to blame, it was the other party”.

My first thoughts of the sessions were not even close on how I thought they would go. I thought it was going to be a bunch of attendees singing “Kum Bah Yah” and other sensitive mumbo jumbo. I couldn’t have been more wrong. The sessions focused on what anger is, how to control anger and minimize angers negative effects in my life. Other sessions involved on communication or the lack of it, and other aspects that could trigger anger. Everybody thinks that anger is a reaction to an event but what I found out is, that it is a bunch of smaller emotions on how your feeling that becomes combined and overloads you (stress). Now, I think prior to attending this course I wasn’t angry. After completing this course I found that I was angry and that my anger can be controlled.

The course opens your mind to think. It makes you think. It opens your mind to other non-anger responses to events. The course also just doesn’t plainly tell you that you can’t act this way, by all means we are human and different sexes. It course reveals the reason on why it makes you angry and shows you how to think of other options to pursue and resolve the issue.

Out of my personal experience, I enjoyed the sessions. During and after every session, I was able to think about personal issues and events that have happened in my life. I found that I was lacking in several areas of being self-aware. With these sessions, I can identify what is the issue(s) and proceed on by more productive ways.

Now being able to notice anger identifiers and emotions, I’m able to feel more confident about obtaining my goals that I thought were out of reach. I truly believe attending The WIN Institute is a very good option for your requirements. It’s a calm atmosphere and there are truly no wrong answers, thoughts, feelings, and situations about yourself that you wish to divulge.

If you come with an open mind and you truly participate in the program and practice some suggestions on dealing with anger and emotions, you are going to feel that this is a very helpful program. I thank you very much Steven for helping me. Thanks again. --- Chris, Wayzata

For more information about The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, CDVF, COAMF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Eight (8) Hour Anger Management Class – A Testimonial

2011-09-17T13:31:00.000-07:00

Recently I took part in an 8 Hour Anger/Stress Management class provided by The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management. This class was referred to me and I was skeptical at first. Then after a little soul searching and being at a place in my life right now, which is less desirable, this class was perfect for me.

I decided that I would come into it with no expectations, no nothing but the thought of gaining knowledge. By the end of the class I not only gained knowledge. I gained perspective, rationale, and most important, life experience that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.

The topics we covered ranged from Stress Management to Communication Skills to Emotional Intelligence to which all may lead to anger if not handled in an appropriate constructive manner. We all have the option to choose in what direction we want to go in life and the topics we discussed gave me a whole new insight on how to handle certain situations. Most of the time I may not have identified the feelings I had or even the thoughts. But stepping back and putting clarity into those will help me move forward in the direction of positive action!

Communication is a huge part of my daily life because I have to function with others at my job. We all have the same goal as a business. In this class I learned that effective listening is going to help not only in problem solving but better communication period. Looking back at some of the experiences I have had with my family we have not always had the best communication. I am certain they will see a better communicator!!!

As stated earlier, I gained a life experience that will stay with me a lifetime and I plan on sharing my knowledge that I have learned and pass it on to others. I think the class or any type of class like this should be taught in schools or some form of curriculum. It will benefit everyone in some sort of way whether it be conscious or unconscious.

I would like to thank The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management and Steven Clark for giving me the understanding in a new light, that I am in control of myself and my actions and it is up to me to put them into positive motion!!!! --- Jason, Minneapolis

For more information about The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Everyone Has A Technique To Control Anger

2011-08-06T06:04:00.000-07:00

It seems that everyone has a technique to control anger. Most of the specifics are good. But let’s get to the heart of the matter.

Anger is a learned response. It was learned in the formative years of childhood and carried forth in our memories into subsequent years as a child, teenager and on into adulthood. Since it is learned there really is no medication to be prescribed or taken to wipe out this memory.

On the other hand, there are new responses to be learned to overcome those old angry responses. Put simply, this new learning suppresses the old memories and allows for a new response when situations that may cause anger issues arise.

You are not crazy! You are not abnormal! You just need to be trained to respond differently!

Unfortunately, we have never been trained to control our anger. Our elementary, secondary and even college educations have woefully neglected this area.

Steven Clark is a Certified Stress and Anger Management Provider and Diplomat of the American Association of Anger Management Providers. His Anger Management Training Classes offer not only Anger Management Control but also Stress Identification and Control, an improvement in Communications and an enhancement of Emotional Intelligence in a comfortable conference room setting either in group sessions or as one-on-one training.

Once learned, your responses will improve, your health will improve and your interpersonal relationships will improve as well.

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger and Stress Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Confronting The Inner Fire – A Testimonial

2011-06-24T05:51:00.000-07:00

I enrolled into The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management’s Thursday night Anger Management Class because I had problems controlling my anger. I didn't understand at the time that there are many contributing emotions that lead to my anger. I was short tempered, confrontational, and used put downs and sarcasm when my emotions got the best of me.

The WIN Institute’s website happened to be the website that grabbed my attention most. I was still very sceptical, thinking to myself, "Do I really need this?" I thought long and hard about attending the class. I recalled how my actions had hurt my new marriage, my family, and friends. It finally became clear to me that I needed to make an effort to change my life for the better. I had too many people in my life I was in danger of losing.

I still had my doubts, thinking I was going to be in a class with "Thugs, Creeps and Crazies". I was pleasantly surprised that the class consisted of normal, everyday people such as myself. The group setting made me a little nervous at first, but everyone was there for the same reason (to control their anger). The group worked well together, like a team. In many cases other group members pointed out that they also went through many of the same emotions, and share the same stresses.

Shortly after I started my sessions, I noticed I was implementing the techniques I learned in class. I wasn't getting angry at all the "Little Things" as much as I was before. My friends started noticing a change in me. My relationship with my wife was getting stronger and more intimate. I even noticed I was becoming more productive at work and around the house. That was something my wife surely appreciated.

This class has changed my life. I think joining this class was one of the best decisions I have made for myself. This program is just a tool, and I still need to put in the work myself to make it work.

Thanks Steven, you are a very patient man and a great mentor. I am truly grateful. I wish all my group members good luck. You can do it. --- Ryan, Golden Valley

For more information about The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, CDVF, COAMF
The WIN Institute -- Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Taking A Step Of Faith – A Testimonial

2011-05-25T15:59:00.000-07:00

Thursday (well, all days for that matter) use to consist of a person who would let emotions get the best of him (short-fused, bitter, angry and most of all uncontrolled). Now, Thursday nights (again all nights) consist of a more understanding, compassionate, less bothered and patient person. All because of what The WIN Institute has taught that man. If you can’t figure it out, that man is me.

My wife and I had been going to a therapist to better our marriage and parenting skills. And after getting a suggestion from our therapist to check out The WIN Institute, I decided “what could I lose”. Upon the initial interview, I discovered and felt that WOW, this is the right place to be!

After my first session, I discovered that many different people from many different walks of life share similar problems and challenges. The in-depth look at myself and others has provided me with a different outlook on life, all for the positive (past, present and future). Again, WOW!

Now after being an active listener and participant in our group sessions, I can see more of the rewards coming from attending The WIN Institute. More compliments from family and friends of how I have bettered myself. I have been told that my anger is much more under control; that I have become a better father to our two toddlers; that I am a happier husband and a less angry man.

I look forward to going to the next group session because I know that I can understand and learn more about why I became the person I was and how I can change to become a better person.

I have learned that with the guidance, help, interaction and passion from The WIN Institute, life can become less of the negative and more of the positive if you are willing to accept change and put in the effort.

I have told many people about The WIN Institute and have gotten many different responses, but all I can do is try to encourage them to check it out. I know I did and I am becoming a much better man, husband and father for making that decision.

Thanks again, WIN Institute, for helping me become a better man because of the insights that you have taught me. --- Justin, Maplewood

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The THREE STEPS to Anger First Aid

2011-05-07T10:56:00.000-07:00

When the limbic system is running amok and your body is surging with adrenaline, you need a simple strategy to deal with anger.

Anger First Aid consists of three simple steps to apply whenever you become angry in order to keep from acting out destructively.

You must become more aware of yourself. The true way to measure our ability to understand, respond to and measure our emotions is to assess the role anger plays in our life. Do we get angry often? Is our anger channeled in productive or counter-productive ways? Do we direct anger towards others or towards ourselves?

At times, anger is a response to a stressful stimulus. It is a powerful survival tool which helps to protect us and keep us alive. It is also a useful of source of energy.

Anger accelerates our thoughts to a very rapid rate. For short durations, this is healthy. However, remaining in a state of anger for a sustained period of time is physically and emotionally unhealthy.

When we are angry we make poor decisions. We become confrontational with those around us. At home, this can translate into either verbally or physically abusive behavior toward those we love. In the workplace it can take the form of threatening or bullying behavior toward subordinates and or lashing out against superiors.

Anger is not a primary emotion. If you are angry there is a direct cause. Therefore, to control our anger you must identify the root cause. You must perform a self-assessment.

The THREE STEPS of ANGER FIRST AID are

1) Recognizing that you are angry.
2) Taking a cleansing breath.
3) Taking a break, a Time Out or a cool down period.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your anger, stress and/or aggressive behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

When Should You Enroll In Our Anger Management Program?

2011-04-25T18:01:00.000-07:00

Anger Management is a program to increase Emotional Intelligence and the skills in Self-Awareness, Self-Control, Social Awareness and Relationship Management. Any time is the right time for skill enhancement in these areas.

Generally, most self-referrals to Anger Management Programs are by persons who are having recurrent anger issues with people whom they are closely related.

However, if you are experiencing angry reactions frequently, you are in need of a program which will improve your skills in emotional intelligence.

Anger is a normal human emotion which is experienced by everyone from time to time. Here are five specific signals that will tell you when your anger is working against you and creating problems for you:

1) When it is too frequent. There are many situations for which becoming angry is justified and natural. But, we often get angry when it is not necessary or useful. It is important to distinguish between the times when it is alright to be angry and when getting angry isn’t a wise idea.

2) When it is too intense. Anger is something that occurs at different levels of intensity. A small or moderate amount of anger can often work to your advantage. High degrees of anger rarely produce positive results and may damage your own physical health.

3) When it lasts too long. When anger continues over time, you maintain a level of arousal or stress that goes beyond normal limits. When anger does not go away, your body’s systems are prevented from returning to normal levels, which makes it easier to get angry the next time something goes wrong. Sometimes, it becomes impossible to resolve.

4) When it leads to aggression. Aggressive acts are likely to result in trouble for you. When you feel you have been abused or treated unfairly, you may want to hurt the person who has offended you. Verbal aggression, like calling someone a name, is not helpful and often leads to a cycle of increasing aggression.

5) When it destroys work or personal relationships. When your anger interferes with doing a good job or makes it hard for people to relate to you, then it becomes a problem.

Anger Management is, by far, the most appropriate method for developing, strengthening and enhancing skills to manage anger and stress.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your anger, stress and/or aggressive behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The Three Steps of Anger First Aid

2011-03-22T11:26:00.000-07:00

When the limbic system is running amok and your body is surging with adrenaline, you need a simple strategy to deal with anger.

Anger First Aid consists of three simple steps to apply whenever you become angry in order to keep from acting out destructively.

You must become more aware of yourself. The true way to measure our ability to understand, respond to and measure our emotions is to assess the role anger plays in our life. Do we get angry often? Is our anger channeled in productive or counter-productive ways? Do we direct anger towards others or towards ourselves?

At times, anger is a response to a stressful stimulus. It is a powerful survival tool which helps to protect us and keep us alive. It is also a useful source of energy.

Anger accelerates our thoughts to a very rapid rate. For short durations, this is healthy. However, remaining in a state of anger for a sustained period of time is physically and emotionally unhealthy.

When we are angry we make poor decisions. We become confrontational with those around us. At home, this can translate into either verbally or physically abusive behavior toward those we love. In the workplace it can take the form of threatening or bullying behavior toward subordinates and or lashing out against superiors.

Anger is not a primary emotion. If you are angry there is a direct cause. Therefore, to control your anger you must identify the root cause. You must perform a self-assessment.

The Three Steps of Anger First Aid are:

1) Recognizing that you are angry.
2) Taking a cleansing breath.
3) Taking a break, a Time Out or a cool down period.

[from George Anderson]

To get more information about how The WIN Institute – Minnesota Anger Management can assist you with your anger, stress and/or aggressive behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute -- Minnesota Anger Management
3300 Bass Lake Road, Suite 400E
Brooklyn Center, MN 55429
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Using Self Talk to Manage Your Anger

2011-03-17T16:46:00.000-07:00

"Pins and needles, needles and pins; it's a happy man that grins." These classic words were made famous by Jackie Gleason in his role as Ralph Kramden in the 1950s TV sitcom, The Honeymooners.

So why in the world was America's favorite bus driver so intent on repeating this phrase whenever he was on the verge of losing his temper? Quite simple, by changing his self-talk or inner conversation with himself, Ralph Kramden was using a popular anger management strategy that continues to be widely used today.

While Ralph Kramden's "Pins and Needles" may not be the mantra that works best for you, perhaps you can develop your own self-talk or inner conversation to use when agitated or provoked. It can be something as simple as, "Relax. Take it easy. I can handle this."

By modifying your self-talk during moments of anger or frustration, you will be more inclined to take the "high road" and avoid conflicts and negative consequences. Although changing the inner conversation with yourself may feel unnatural at first, it eventually will become second nature.

So practice, practice, practice! All the while, keep in mind that your words are extremely powerful and will ultimately hold the key to managing your anger.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute - Minnesota Anger Management can assist you with your anger, stress and/or aggressive behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Light At The End Of The Tunnel

2011-02-12T09:57:00.000-08:00

No matter what situations life throws at you! No matter how long and treacherous your journey may seem! Remember, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Your light might just be Stress and Anger Management Intervention training. In these sessions, we will teach you how to manage your Stress, how to control your Anger, how to better Communicate with your loved ones, co-workers and employers and how to enhance your Emotional Intelligence.

Anger is a learned response to the many stresses you face each day. By learning new ways to deal with your stress and anger, your life and relationships will become what you want.

If you have a history of recurring anger issues, you need Stress and Anger Management Training. Your health, your relationships, your very life may depend on it.

Stress and Anger Management Intervention is, by far, the most appropriate method for developing, strengthening and enhancing your skills to manage your stress and anger.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your stress, anger and/or aggressive behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
Minnesota Anger Management
763-913-0130
E-Mail: thewininstitute@yahoo.com
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Court Ordered Anger Management Intervention – A Testimonial

2011-01-30T16:17:00.000-08:00

I came from old family ways and traditional values that taught me to keep family matters “in-house” and not talk about them with anyone else outside of the family. The problem was that we never discussed or resolved any of the issues within my family of origin.

Over time, I became numb and confused regarding my own emotions because of the issues that we did not address that should have been discussed. What I thought was being in control of my emotions was really a way of masking my hurt, anger and frustration regarding unanswered, unresolved issues and questions.

I was court-ordered to attend an Anger Management program due to my prior violent behavior. Before attending The WIN Institute’s Anger Management Intervention program, anger management was not an option for me.

After having completed the 16 week Anger Management Intervention program with The WIN Institute, I have gained a much better awareness of myself and how to communicate assertively while using my anger much more productively.

Prior to attending The WIN Institute program I developed a pattern of internalizing my feelings and emotions which, in many instances, lead to explosive outbursts. My anger was turned inward thru guilt, depression, substance abuse and rejection.

For myself, I have recognized my patterns of negative behavior that lead to abrupt and impulsive choices. Those patterns are now replaced with positive conscious behavior. These new behavioral skills will help me move closer to my life goals and aspirations. --- Jeffrey, Minneapolis.

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Civility, Anger Management & Emotional Intelligence: Unintended Consequences Of Tucson, Arizona

2011-01-20T16:50:00.000-08:00

The tragedy in Tucson, Arizona has resulted in an avalanche of self-referrals to anger management programs nationwide. Parents who are fearful of the potential for violence on the part of their off spring as well as spouses are asking to be seen individually or in groups. Even neighbors are urging others to seek help for long standing problems in interpersonal relationships.

Mental health providers are experiencing an increase in referrals for anxiety and depression which are oftern precursors of anger and/or impediments to empathy and emotional intelligence. Below are some of the comments from callers.

•I am a Chef and last Sunday my anger was so extreme it freightened me. I just know that it is time to do something that I should have done long ago. Take an anger management class.

•My son is 17 and we are worrying about him because he is always angry to the extent that his friends are even telling him that he needs help.

•My wife wants me to come and, I guess she is right. I find myself over reacting to almost everything.

•I have two small children and I find myself pinching them, throwing things and yelling when they are only being children.

•I am a Priest and a number of my parishioners have privately urged my to seek counseling for my temper. It is embarrassing for a person in my position.

•I am a Professional in Elder Care. I found myself yelling at a neighbor who I later found in terminally ill. I feel so ashamed.

These are just some of the comments. The number of calls have increased dramatically since the cry for civility hit the airways and the Internet. This is a trend that a grieving nation needs.

[from George Anderson, MSW]

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your Anger, Stress and/or Aggressive Behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Anger Management For Teens

2011-01-01T09:42:00.000-08:00

Many teens (and adults, too!) have trouble effectively managing their anger and stress. They may explode, yell and curse, throw things, and slam doors. Or they may turn their anger inwards, becoming sullen and depressed. In the most extreme cases, a pattern of unresolved angry feelings can lead to violence, either directed at others or towards the self. What causes these angry feelings in the first place?

It’s important that teens be able to do the following:

Recognize triggers. When teens are calm enough to process effectively, they can be helped to deconstruct situations that resulted in anger: what happened first? Often, the thing that seems to have caused the anger may have just been the “last straw”, but might not be the true trigger. Teens often need help working backwards to identify what the real issue is.

Once the trigger is identified, help teens to label it. “I got angry when my teacher asked me for my homework and it isn’t done.” Or “I got angry when my friend backed out of plans we had made.” Spelling out the trigger helps teens to focus on that trigger.

Identify underlying feelings. Often, there is an emotional response to the situation that precedes anger. The teen needs help to try to weed these feelings out. A follow up question might be, “Why do you think that made you so angry?” In the examples above, typical responses might be, “Because everyone was watching.” Or “Because it makes me feel like she’s not really my friend.” This process helps the teen uncover other feelings, such as fear, shame, or loneliness, which lie underneath the anger. These are the feelings that need to be dealt with.

Then the teen needs to reflect on these feelings and put names on the feelings. “You felt embarrassed.” Or “You felt like you might not trust her friendship.” Acknowledging teens’ experiences helps validate them, and keeps teens to open-up and talk. Plus, until a teen feels understood, they are not usually ready to move into a problem-solving phase.

For more information about The WIN Institute's Teen Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The Power Of Anger Management Education

2010-12-13T17:22:00.000-08:00

"Education consists mainly in what we have unlearned." --- Mark Twain

This quote is very appropriate when considering the personal need for Anger and Stress Management. The WIN Institute will give you the educational tools to control your Anger and Stress as well as help improve your Communication style and also to enhance your Emotional Intelligence.

What are these components?

They are basically the means to unlearn your angry behavior which you started learning as a small child. By mastering these areas you will be more able to spot those things which cause you Stress and Anger, “YOUR BUTTONS” so to speak. By learning a new Communication style, you will be able to understand yourself and others more clearly. Increasing your Emotional Intelligence will enhance your ability to understand your own emotions, those of your loved ones and those in your other relationships.

If you have a history of severe anger responses with inappropriate behavior, chances are you have never been taught how to unlearn those factors which make you angry and to identify the stressors in your life, even if you have been in therapy. Generally, therapists don't have the time to teach and maybe not the inclination.

Anger Management Education is not therapy. There are no medications used. All you need is the personal motivation to change. To unlearn the old behaviors and to replace them with new behaviors.

Your new knowledge will make you much more happier and healthier. In addition, your intimate relationships, your friendly relationships and your business relationships will all drastically improve.

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Family Law Courts And Children Services Are Advocates For Anger Management

2010-12-04T19:52:00.000-08:00

New developments in California and Alabama Family Law Courts will likely influence Courts in other states:

1. California Divorce Courts are now mandating Anger Management in contentious cases where children are involved. Generally, one or both parents are ordered to attend 52 weeks (one year) of Anger Management with quarterly progress reports. Pre and Post Assessments for anger are also required.

2. The Family Law Court in Huntsville, Alabama is requiring Anger Management Assessments and when indicated, Anger Management for couples whose anger and aggressive behavior may impact their ability to appropriately work together relative to visitation.

In addition, Clark County Nevada, Los Angeles County and the entire state of Arkansas are mandating that parents in child abuse cases complete Anger Management classes as a condition of re-unification with their minor children.

These two positive trends will usher in a dramatic increase in the use of Anger Management Intervention programs provided by Certified Anger Management Providers throughout the nation.

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
Certified Anger Management Provider & Coach
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Court Ordered Anger Management Intervention – A Testimonial

2010-11-22T16:25:00.000-08:00

I was court-ordered to attend an Anger Management program due to my prior violent behavior. Before attending The WIN Institute’s Anger Management Intervention program, anger management was not an option for me.

I came from old family ways and traditional values that taught me to keep family matters “in-house” and not talk about them with anyone else outside of the family. The problem was that we never discussed or resolved any of the issues within my family of origin.

Over time, I became numb and confused regarding my own emotions because of the issues that we did not address that should have been discussed. What I thought was being in control of my emotions was really a way of masking my hurt, anger and frustration regarding unanswered, unresolved issues and questions.

The WIN Institute’s Anger Management Intervention program has helped me let go of the past and to focus more clearly on the future. Along with the program workbook, the program facilitator (Steven Clark) has helped me identify my negative learned behaviors and has provided strategies to learn new positive behaviors.

Now that I have been attending The WIN Institute, I am learning how to positively channel my anger by understanding my stressors and triggers.

I am now better able to cope with situations as they arise in a more positive and constructive way. --- William, Minneapolis.

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Anger And Domestic Violence

2010-11-20T10:43:00.000-08:00

Anger occurs when individuals experience unresolved stress which can easily lead to frustration which is a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or even depression. This can be a partial cause of Domestic Violence.

Domestic Violence is domestic abuse or spousal abuse by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Obviously, Domestic Violence is negative hurtful behavior against an intimate partner. If you love your partner why would you intentionally hurt them?

Domestic Violence can be either verbal or physical aggression or threatening behavior, sexual or emotional abuse, controlling or intimidating behavior, passive abusive behavior such as neglect or even economic deprivation. Again, all of these are hurtful, violent and illegal behaviors.

It has been estimated that only about a third of cases of Domestic Violence are actually reported in the United States. According to the Center for Disease Control Domestic Violence is a serious, preventable public health problem affecting more than 32 million Americans, or over 10% of the U.S. population.

Domestic Violence can be characterized by patterns of behavior which may include power and control by one person over another in an intimate relationship. It can occur in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships and has serious consequences in the lives of children, individuals, families and communities.

Anger is the response elicited in humans when we sense we’re being attacked or otherwise endangered which can come from hostile behavior, inattention, intimidation, controlling behavior, manipulation or outright rage.

Courts in Minnesota require and mandate that individuals accused of Domestic Violence take training in Domestic Violence Intervention Program. Not an Anger Management Intervention Program.

Our programs for Anger Management Intervention and Domestic Violence Intervention are the Anderson & Anderson models which are world renowned. They teach an individual new ways to behave by giving you the tools necessary to change your behavior in a pleasant easy way. Also included in both programs are Stress Management training, Emotional Intelligence enhancement and improvement in Communications. These programs are not psychotherapy but rather are skill enhancement programs.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your Anger, Stress and/or Aggressive and Violent Behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org

Self-Referrals For Anger Management: A Trend Becomes A Reality

2010-11-06T10:37:00.000-07:00

Over the last year, there has been reported a noticeable trend toward voluntary enrollment in Anger Management courses or Executive Coaching in contrast to mandated Court or Human Resource referrals. We can now state that this trend has now become a reality.

Traditionally, Anger Management has been seen as a resource mostly for individuals who have been mandated by Courts or Human Resource Managers to attend Anger Management courses. The new reality dramatically changes the client demographics of programs.

The new look of Anger Management clients:

1) Most new clients are college graduates who wish to improve their communication skills and/or emotional intelligence;

2) Attorneys and Physicians are the dominant professional groups seeking Anger Management programs for Executive Coaching;

3) Women who are Managers, Supervisors or small business owners who describe themselves as stressed or burned out;

4) Mothers who are referred by their Pediatricians or Psychotherapists in relation to questionable discipline of their children;

5) Men who are aware of deficits in Interpersonal Relationships;

6) Women who suspect that their interpersonal skills are impediments to maintaining intimate relationships.

Another important change is the preference for individual coaching rather than attending small group classes.

[compiled from George Anderson]

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you in changing how you exhibit Anger, Stress and/or Aggressive Behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org

When Should You Enroll In Our Anger Management Program?

2010-10-14T16:14:00.000-07:00

Anger Management is a program to increase Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and the skills in Self-Awareness, Self-Control, Social Awareness and Relationship Management. Any time is the right time for skill enhancement in these areas.

Generally, most self-referrals to Anger Management Programs are by persons who are having recurrent anger issues with people whom they are closely related.

However, if you are experiencing angry reactions frequently, you are in need of a program which will improve your skills in Emotional Intelligence.

Anger is a normal human emotion which is experienced by everyone from time to time. Here are five specific signals that will tell you when your anger is working against you and creating problems for you:

1) When it is too frequent. There are many situations for which becoming angry is justified and natural. But, we often get angry when it is not necessary or useful. It is important to distinguish between the times when it is alright to be angry and when getting angry isn’t a wise idea.

2) When it is too intense. Anger is something that occurs at different levels of intensity. A small or moderate amount of anger can often work to your advantage. High degrees of anger rarely produce positive results and may damage your own physical health.

3) When it lasts too long. When anger continues over time, you maintain a level of arousal or stress that goes beyond normal limits. When anger does not go away, your body’s systems are prevented from returning to normal levels, which makes it easier to get angry the next time something goes wrong. Sometimes, it becomes impossible to resolve.

4) When it leads to aggression. Aggressive acts are likely to result in trouble for you. When you feel you have been abused or treated unfairly, you may want to hurt the person who has offended you. Verbal aggression, like calling someone a name, is not helpful and often leads to a cycle of increasing aggression.

5) When it destroys work or personal relationships. When your anger interferes with doing a good job or makes it hard for people to relate to you, then it becomes a problem.

Anger Management is, by far, the most appropriate method for developing, strengthening and enhancing skills to manage your anger and stress.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your anger, stress and/or aggressive behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Workplace Anger Management – A Pandemic?

2010-10-09T11:57:00.000-07:00

Anger has become one of the most highlighted problems in today’s world. With unemployment at an all time high nationally, and the stress of modern life in American becoming incredibly stressful, Americans are turning to rage. Anger is often a bi-product of other more primitive emotions such as stress, fear, depression and anxiety.

Recent Bureau of Justice data shows that over half a million victims of workplace violence lose over 1.8 million workdays a year, at a cost of $55 million annually. Americans need stress and anger management now, more than ever. Rage and impulse control issues in the workplace affect the moral of other employees, and also create an environment where employees don’t feel safe which reduces productivity.

Historically, anger in the corporate world was viewed as a personal issue. It was something the employee had to deal with on their own. If the employee was lucky, their employer had a program they could refer them too for help.

More progressive employers who are on the cutting edge, will seek out their own stress and anger management training for their employees. This preventative intervention is an extraordinary cost savings to the company and has lasting benefits to the employees.

First off, the cost to train an employee in stress and anger management skills is rather low. The second benefit of training employees in stress and anger control is that the company will experience less law suits filed as a result of inappropriate workplace conduct. Companies will also experience improved moral, less days off, and increased productivity.

Stress and anger management classes can be taken in a variety of settings. If you are an H.R. Director or company decision maker, consider the risks vs. the benefits of stress and anger management training for your employees. The choice to provide stress and anger management training is simple.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your employees that may be exhibiting Stress, Anger, and/or Aggressive Behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Stress In The Workplace

2010-10-03T14:20:00.000-07:00

In this difficult economy, you may find it harder than ever to cope with challenges on the job. Both the stress we take with us when we go to work and the stress that awaits us on the job are on the rise – and employers, executives, managers, and other employees all feel the added pressure.

While some stress is a normal part of life, excessive stress interferes with your productivity and reduces your physical and emotional health, so it’s important to find ways to keep it under control. Fortunately, there is a lot that you can do to manage and reduce stress at work.

For workers everywhere, the troubled economy may feel like an emotional roller coaster. "Layoffs" and "Budget Cuts" have become bywords in the workplace, and the result is increased fear, uncertainty, and higher levels of stress. Since job and workplace stress grow in times of economic crisis, it’s important to learn new and better ways of coping with the pressure.

The ability to manage stress in the workplace can make the difference between success or failure on the job. Your emotions are contagious, and stress has an impact on the quality of your interactions with others. The better you are at managing your own stress, the more you'll positively affect those around you and the less other people's stress will negatively affect you.

Common causes of excessive workplace stress:

•Fear of layoffs.
•Increased demands for overtime due to staff cutbacks.
•Pressure to perform to meet rising expectations but with no
increase in job satisfaction.
•Pressure to work at optimum levels – all the time!
•Pressure to meet increased quota's in sales, collections, etc..

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist your organization combat employee stress at all levels, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The Benefits of Managing Stress and Anger

2010-09-25T17:47:00.000-07:00

Improving your ability to manage stress and anger has a number of benefits. You'll feel like you have more control when life's challenges turn up the heat, and more relaxed in challenging situations. Knowing how to express your feelings assertively means you won't feel frustrated because you feel like you need to "hold in" your anger to avoid offending someone.

Stress and Anger Management skills and techniques will help you:

Argue less. Enjoy better overall communication that results when you talk about your anger rather than letting it build. This will help you avoid saying impulsive and hurtful things that damage relationships with family members, friends, co-workers and your partner.

Maintain better health. The stress caused by ongoing angry feelings can increase your risk for health problems, including headaches, sleep problems, digestive problems, heart problems and high blood pressure.

Prevent psychological problems. Which can be linked to anger, that can include depression, low self-esteem, problems at work and troubled relationships.

Use your frustration to get things done. Anger expressed inappropriately can make it difficult for you to think clearly, and may result in poor judgment. Learn to use feelings of frustration and anger as motivators to work harder and take positive action.

Help avoid addictive escapes. It is common for people who feel chronically angry to turn to alcohol, drugs or food. Rather than using alcohol, drugs or food to dull anger, you can use anger management techniques to keep your cool and your control.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can help you with your Stress and Anger Management, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Stress, Anger and Your Partner

2010-09-13T16:20:00.000-07:00

"Steven," the voice on the phone pleaded, "I need anger management classes right away. I blew up at my wife last night and she said it’s over until I get help".

As Frank recounted the first night of class, he and his wife had argued in the car over which route to take home from a party. Events progressed from mild irritation, to yelling and name calling.

Things escalated at home. He tried to escape, but she followed him from room to room, demanding resolution of the conflict. He became angry, defensive and intimidating.

Frightened, she left. Later, she left an anguished message saying that she loved him, but couldn't deal with his angry, hurtful outbursts.

Frank said that he normally is a very “nice” and friendly person. But, on this occasion, his girlfriend had been drinking before the party. In his view, she was irrational, and non-stop in criticism. He tried to reason with her, but it just made things worse. Finally, as Frank saw things, in desperation he “lost it” and became enraged.

How should Frank have handled this situation? What could he have done differently? What actions should you take in similar situations?

New research by John Gottman, Ph.D., at the University of Washington indicates that when you and your partner argue, your pulse rate goes above 100 beats per minute, and you enter a physiological state called DPA (Diffuse Physiological Arousal). Once there, it becomes nearly impossible to solve the problem. You lose perspective. Your reasoning ability, memory, and judgment, greatly decline.

Taking a time-out allows both of you to return to your normal state of mind.

It is neither healthy nor necessary for you to explode as a result of being provoked by your partner. Our recommendation: Turn the heat down rather than intensifying the pressure by not interacting in one or more of the following ways:

Inattention - simply ignoring your partner when you shouldn’t. This is also called stonewalling, or being emotionally unavailable when your partner needs you, or not speaking to your partner for long periods because you are upset with them.

Intimidation - engaging in behavior intended to make your partner do things out of fear. This includes yelling, screaming, throwing things, and posturing in a threatening way (physical violence).

Manipulation - doing or saying things to influence your partner, for your benefit, instead of theirs or for the benefit of the relationship.

Hostility - using sarcasm, put-downs, and antagonistic remarks. Extreme or prolonged hostility leads to contempt – a major predictor of divorce.

Vengeance - the need to “get even” with your partner for a grievance you have against them. Many dysfunctional couples “keep score,” and are constantly trying to “pay back” each other for offenses.

Criticism – involves attacking someone’s personality or character, rather than a specific behavior, often coupled with blame. Like contempt, criticism is a second major predictor of divorce.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can help you with your Stress, Anger and/or Aggressive Behavior and improve your communication skills, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Anger Management Prevents Hostile Work Environment Claims

2010-09-09T18:13:00.000-07:00

Enlightened Human Resource Managers recognize the value of taking action quickly when any Violence in the Workplace Policy is violated. Doing nothing is an invitation to “hostile workplace” liability lawsuits.

Violence in the workplace is increasing even though it is far less common than verbal behavior that is interpreted by the victim as demeaning, threatening, arrogant, intimidating or disruptive.

Anger Management, rather than counseling, is the intervention of choice for interpersonal conflicts at work.

When mandating anger management to an employee, it is best for the Human Resource Manager to personally contact Steven W. Clark, a Certified Anger Management Provider prior to making the referral.

Legitimate Anger Management Facilitators offer their services in person rather than on-line. We use Pre and Post Assessments for each client. We use client workbooks and provide anger management either individually or in small groups.

Finally, we are accustomed to working with Human Resource referrals and dealing with resistant clients. We are acutely aware of the need to provide appropriate feedback to Human Resource Managers.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can assist you with your employees that may be exhibiting Anger, Stress and/or Aggressive Behavior (physical or verbal), please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, COAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

What is Assertiveness?

2010-09-03T13:11:00.000-07:00

Assertiveness is a way of thinking and behaving that allows a person to stand up for his or her rights while respecting the rights of others.

Non-assertive people may be passive or aggressive.

Passive individuals are not committed to their own rights and are more likely to allow others to infringe on their rights than to stand up and speak out.

On the other hand, aggressive persons are very likely to defend their own rights and work to achieve their own goals but are also likely to disregard the rights of others.

Additionally, aggressive individuals insist that their feelings and needs take precedence over other people’s. They also tend to blame others for problems instead of offering solutions.

Assertive attitudes and behaviors are at the heart of effective advocacy. A person with an assertive attitude recognizes that each individual has rights. These rights include not only legal rights but also rights to individuality, to have and express personal preferences, feelings and opinions. The assertive individual not only believes in his or her rights but is committed to preserving those rights. An assertive attitude is important in recognizing that rights are being violated.

The passive person is so concerned with being liked and accepted that he or she may never recognize the need to advocate. The assertive person clearly expresses his or her rights or needs. They tend to face problems promptly and they focus on solutions rather than problems.

The following will enhance your assertiveness skills. Assertive listening is one of the most important advocacy skills we will discuss. The goals of assertive listening are:

(1) Letting the other person know that you want to understand his or her point of view;

(2) Understanding accurately what another person is saying;

(3) Letting the other person know that he or she has been understood. Remember that understanding is different from agreement. You can understand what another is saying but still disagree with him or her.

[from Brain Injury Institute]

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management or Domestic Violence Intervention programs, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF, COAMF
Member, American Association of Anger Management Providers (AAAMP)
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Self Esteem and Anger

2010-08-11T09:13:00.000-07:00

Self Esteem is the worth or value we apply to ourselves. It’s important that we place value upon ourselves so we feel worthy. Self esteem can fluctuate on a daily basis. This is normal. However, people with low self esteem depend on the present to determine how they feel about themselves.

People with low self esteem are typically unassertive in their interpersonal communications. Lack of assertive skills may tend to cause the individual with low self esteem to hold in their anger. This may lead to an eruption of anger which is often very problematic in their relationships.

The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program provides the necessary tools to be more assertive in relationships. This is one of the behavioral characteristics we measure, by using the Conover Assessment, at the beginning of the course and again at the end of the course so we can measure the client’s improvement.

A recent study of the scores of students who have completed the course showed an average improvement in interpersonal assertiveness over 75%. This may vary from student to student but usually there is significant improvement. An increase in assertiveness will usually go hand in hand with an elevation of self esteem.

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

A Major Change Has Finally Come -- A Testimonial

2010-08-10T09:40:00.000-07:00

There is no greater accomplishment then to have made a voluntary change when you could have chosen to stay in denial for the rest of your life. By completing The WIN Institute’s Anger Management Intervention classes, that major change has finally occurred in my life.

The WIN Institute provided me with many resources, (i.e. “Gaining Control of Yourself” workbook, hand-outs, and an anger log) all of which have helped me to get closer to my goal of maintaining my peace and tranquility in the midst of many stressful situations. I have seen so much growth in myself and my aggression has extremely decreased (it is at a 0 now- based on the outgoing Conover Assessment).

During the course of my time at The WIN Institute, I have maintained good standing at my job, I’ve learned to say “NO” more often in a positive way, and I’ve gained a totally new perspective on my life. Having been apart of this Anger Management Intervention Program has made a huge and positive impact on my life.

I don’t know why I didn’t take these classes a long time ago; they were worth the time and the money. Steven, the instructor, is an excellent facilitator. He is professional, personable, and he connects with all of his participants. He gave us easy and practical examples in class, to bring our workbook alive and he showed us how to apply that same material into our everyday lives.

If you know that your anger is holding you back or stunting your growth, I would strongly encourage you to enroll in The WIN Institute’s Anger Management Intervention Program today and start getting things back on track in your life. We all need some help, some time. Don’t wait until things get really rough to make a change; make a change now. The WIN Institute really brings out the best in you; they challenge you to become the person you want to be and the person that you know you should be. –- B.C., Brooklyn Center, MN

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The WIN Institute – Press Release

2010-07-02T07:07:00.000-07:00

The WIN Institute has been approved, once again, as a provider of Anger Management Intervention and Domestic Violence Intervention.

The Wright County Community Corrections Department, Adult Services Division has approved The WIN Institute to provide Anger Management and Domestic Violence Intervention programs for their court referred clients.

At The WIN Institute, we help people gain insight and awareness into flawed thinking and self-defeating patterns of behavior and actions. Each WIN Institute program gives our clients the tools they need to better understand themselves and to make life-changing decisions about their choices and their conduct.

At The WIN Institute, we care deeply about the success of each individual and it is our mission to help change lives permanently and reduce recidivism. This is accomplished by applying the cognitive-behavioral approach based on the Anderson & Anderson model developed by George Anderson using the workbooks “Gaining Control Of Ourselves” and “A Ray Of Hope”. Each workbook utilizes mini-lectures, homework assignments, quizzes, exercises, video vignettes, and group discussions.

The WIN Institute specializes in "BRINGING OUT THE WINNER IN YOU" by instructing our clients on how to manage their stress and anger; and how to alter their violent behavior.

For more information, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

What Is Aggression and How Does It Work?

2010-06-28T18:10:00.000-07:00

Aggression is an act of hostility that is directed at an external object or person. It is a forceful behavior, action, or attitude that is expressed physically or verbally. It may arise from innate drives or occur as a defense mechanism, often resulting from a threatened ego.

It can be manifested by either constructive or destructive acts directed toward oneself or against others.

Constructive aggression is an act of self-assertiveness in response to a threatening action for purposes of self-protection and preservation.

Destructive aggression is an act of hostility unnecessary for self-protection or self-preservation that is directed at an external object or person.

Anger is the response that people exhibit when they sense they are being attacked. In other words someone is aggressed upon. This aggression is the constructive type which helps to protect us and which is designed to save our life.

Anger is a secondary emotion which is in response to a primary emotion, very often fear and/or stress.

If we sense we’re being attacked, verbally or physically, we often respond aggressively back at the attacker by becoming angry. Remember, this is a protective response designed to keep us alive.

The WIN Institutes Anger and Stress Management program is a skill enhancement program, the Anderson & Anderson model, which helps our clients gain control of themselves by incorporating the tools to change their Behavior, to improve their Stress Management skills, to understand and use Emotional Intelligence in their relationships and to improve their Interpersonal Communications and Conflict Resolution skills.

The WIN Institute utilizes the Conover Assessment Examination (pre and post) in all of our programs where Anger, Stress and/or Violent Behavior are an issue for our clients.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can help you with your Anger, Stress and/or Violent Behavior, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

How Effective Is This Anger and Stress Management Program?

2010-06-25T13:16:00.000-07:00

A study of 200 clients was undertaken by my colleague Dr. Steven J. Sinert, President of Nevada Anger Management, LLC, which is a private Anger Management practice utilizing the before and after averages using the Conover Assessment Examination which measures the following parameters:

1) Interpersonal Assertion: How good or comfortable the individual feels about telling others about their thoughts, feelings and behaviors in dealing with others:

Average pre-training score: 3.03;
Average post-training score: 5.30 (74.91% increase)

2) Empathy: How the individual views their current skill and ability to sense, understand and accept another person’s thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

Average pre-training score: 4.38
Average post-training score: 5.35 (22.14 % increase)

3) Stress Management: Shows the individual’s skill in managing stress and worry.

Average pre-training score: 3.97
Average post-training score: 5.05 (27.20% increase)

4) Aggression: The amount to which an individual uses a communications style that violates or offends or takes away another’s rights, thoughts or feelings.

Average pre-training score: 2.82
Average post-training score: 0.62 (78.01% decrease)

5) Interpersonal Deference: A measurement of the degree to which an individual uses a personal communication style that tends to yield or give in to someone else, lets others have their way or gives their rights to others.

Average pre-training score: 2.61
Average post-training score: 1.71 (34.48% decrease)

6) Change Orientation: Indicates the degree to which an individual is motivated and ready for change. No measurement of an individual's motivation was included in this study. It is recognized however that the greater the motivation the more likely the individual will be successful in achieving success in our programs.

Conclusion: From these findings it would appear that this Anger Management Program is very effective in increasing Assertive Skills, Empathy, Stress management and decreasing Aggression and Deference. These results are in no way a guarantee that any specific individual will respond the same way. However, these results are a good indication that, on average, most individuals with anger, stress and/or violent behavior issues will have a positive outcome from taking an Anger and Stress Management program or the Domestic Violence program at The WIN Institute taught by a Certified Provider using the Anderson & Anderson model.

The WIN Institute utilizes the Conover Assessment Examination (pre and post) in all of our programs where Anger, Stress and Violent Behavior are an issue for our clients.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can help you with your Anger and Stress Management, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Domestic Violence Class – A Life Changing Transformation (A Testimonial)

2010-06-07T16:29:00.000-07:00

My name is Jake and I wanted to take a couple of minutes to tell you how The Win Institute’s Domestic Violence Intervention program has changed my life.

Five months ago I was involved in a domestic dispute that I was having with my fiance. With out going into great detail the argument that we had escalated to the point where we were both using physical violence. I was arrested, and a few months later I was court ordered to take a 21 week Domestic Violence class. That is when I met Steven Clark, the facilitator of The WIN Institute’s Domestic Violence Intervention program.

I was very skeptical of the classes before I even started them but one hour into my first session I started to realize that I had a serious problem. I am now currently a third of the way through my twenty one week class and the things that I have learned are amazing. Steven is an incredibly gifted man that has helped me change my life. Through The WIN Institute’s Domestic Violence Intervention classes and the facilitators one on one interaction with each client, you can tell that he truly cares about people, and wants to help them better their lives.

The classes themselves are very structured and they could entail several different processes throughout the class sessions. These could include role playing, structured readings, or just as simple as watching videos based on domestic violence. I am eager to finish the classes, not to have them over, but to be able to complete what I feel is a life changing transformation for myself.

I would encourage anyone that feels or knows that they may have a domestic violence problem to sign up for The WIN Institute Domestic Violence Intervention class to help themselves, their partner and their family! - J.P., Maple Grove, MN

For more information about The WIN Institute's Domestic Violence Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

A Person Ready For Change – A Testimonial

2010-05-14T12:12:00.000-07:00

As a young woman with a son of my own, there are times when I struggle with understanding why I get angry. When I get mad I overeat, and I lay around (doing nothing), because I can’t bring myself to do anything other than focus on what’s going wrong at the time. I was determined that I wasn’t going to let anger rule my life, I was absolutely convinced that if I didn’t get this constant unhappiness under control, I would loose my many opportunities for having a better life for myself and the opportunities for helping to create a better life for those that I love. I knew it was time to enroll myself into an Anger Management Class.

Being in The WIN Institute’s Anger Management Intervention program, for the past 9 weeks, has already totally changed my life. I’m not saying that just to say that, but honestly this class has made me do a double-take at my stressors and my anger. Steven Clark, the instructor, is a wonderful facilitator and he is so personable.

Up until I started class, I had a negative outlook on my life and the future ahead of me. I was unemployed, didn’t have a daycare provider for my son and I was never totally satisfied with being stuck where I was, right there with negative emotions. Now, 9 weeks later, I have an excellent paying job, I have a great daycare provider who love’s my son and those negative emotions no longer rule me. I have begun the process of emotional healing and constant victory over stress and anger because of my commitment to this class and because of the commitment of the facilitator to me.

I would HIGHLY recommend The WIN Institute’s Anger Management Intervention program for anybody, whether you are court-appointed or self-enrolled. I enrolled myself and it has been worth every penny. The location is great, the instructor is willing to work with you and really help. I feel cared about and that my feelings really do mean something here.

If you want to go further in life, but you feel like there’s something holding you back - you need to take this class because 99.999% of the time, WE are the ones holding OURSELVES back. For those who want to get a better understanding about their stress and anger, and how to control it or even how to gain emotional intelligence - you need to take this class too.

The Anger Management Class, at The WIN Institute, will give you the tools necessary to experience the prosperous and “fruitful” life that every human being longs for. – T.B., Brooklyn Park, MN

For more information about The WIN Institute's Anger Management Intervention program, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The WIN Institute – Press Release

2010-04-30T07:35:00.000-07:00

The WIN Institute has been approved, once again, as a premier provider of Domestic Violence Intervention and Anger and Stress Management Intervention.

The Wright County Community Corrections Department, Adult Services Division has approved The WIN Institute to provide Domestic Violence Intervention along with Anger and Stress Management Intervention programs for their court referred clients.

At The WIN Institute, we help people gain insight and awareness into flawed thinking and self-defeating patterns of behavior and actions. Each WIN Institute program gives our clients the tools they need to better understand themselves and to make life-changing decisions about their choices and their conduct. At The WIN Institute, we care deeply about the success of each individual and it is our mission to help change lives permanently and reduce recidivism.

This is accomplished by applying the cognitive-behavioral approach based on the Anderson & Anderson model developed by George Anderson using the workbooks “A Ray Of Hope” and “Gaining Control Of Ourselves”. Each workbook utilizes mini-lectures, homework assignments, quizzes, exercises, video vignettes, and group discussions.

The WIN Institute specializes in BRINGING OUT THE WINNER IN YOU by instructing our clients on how to alter their violent behavior; and how to manage their stress and anger for a more productive life.

For more information, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The Benefits Of Anger Management Intervention

2010-04-10T11:34:00.000-07:00

Improving your ability to manage anger and stress has a number of benefits. You will feel like you have more control when life's challenges turn up the heat, and more relaxed in challenging situations. Knowing how to express your feelings assertively (not aggressively) means you won't feel frustrated because you feel like you need to "hold in" your anger to avoid offending someone.

Anger Management Intervention can help you:

•Argue Less. Enjoy better overall communication that results when you talk about your anger rather than letting it build. This will help you avoid saying impulsive and hurtful things that damage relationships with family members, friends and your partner.

•Maintain Better Health. The stress caused by ongoing angry feelings can increase your risk for health problems, including headaches, sleep problems, digestive problems, heart problems and high blood pressure.

•Prevent Psychological Problems Linked To Anger. These problems can include depression, problems at work and troubled relationships.

•Use Your Frustration To Get Things Done. Anger expressed inappropriately can make it difficult for you to think clearly, and may result in poor judgment. Learn to use feelings of frustration and anger as motivators to work harder and take positive action.

•Help Avoid Addictive Escapes. It's common for people who feel chronically angry to turn to alcohol, drugs or food. Rather than using alcohol, drugs or food to dull anger, you can use anger management techniques to keep your cool and your control.

To get more information about how The WIN Institute can help you with your Anger and Stress Management, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
Web Site: www.thewininstitute.org
Blog Site: www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The WIN Institute – Press Release

2010-04-06T10:01:00.000-07:00

The WIN Institute has been approved, once again, as a provider of Anger Management Intervention and Domestic Violence Intervention.

The Ramsey County Community Corrections Department, Adult Services Division has approved The WIN Institute to provide Anger Management and Domestic Violence Intervention programs for their court referred clients.

At The WIN Institute, we help people gain insight and awareness into flawed thinking and self-defeating patterns of behavior and actions. Each WIN Institute program gives our clients the tools they need to better understand themselves and to make life-changing decisions about their choices and their conduct. At The WIN Institute, we care deeply about the success of each individual and it is our mission to help change lives permanently and reduce recidivism.

This is accomplished by applying the cognitive-behavioral approach based on the Anderson & Anderson model developed by George Anderson using the workbooks “Gaining Control Of Ourselves” and “A Ray Of Hope”. Each workbook utilizes mini-lectures, homework assignments, quizzes, exercises, video vignettes, and group discussions.
The WIN Institute specializes in BRINGING OUT THE WINNER IN YOU by instructing our clients on how to manage their stress and anger; and how to alter their violent behavior.

For more information, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

ANGER, HOSTILITY and VIOLENCE

2010-04-04T19:01:00.000-07:00

Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure and usually antagonism. For example you and another person have a disagreement or difference of opinion on a subject. The angry response is an aggressive response to that difference of opinion.

Hostility is an ongoing feeling of conflict, opposition, or resistance in thought or principle.

Violence is the exertion of physical force or rage so as to injure or abuse another person.

All of these are learned behaviors. They are the way you respond when you have no alternative means of response. They are set up by stress and fear and perhaps other forms of behavior as well.

Controlling your Stress and Anger and learning new methods of behavior will help to resolve your anger issues. Add in the Communications factors and you have improved your anger issues significantly. Lastly, learn to consider your emotions and those of your adversaries and suddenly, they’re not adversaries any longer.

Are your loved ones adversaries? Are your co-workers, employers and friends adversaries? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to relieve those adversarial titles and enjoy life?

Anger Management Training can teach you how to control your stress and anger, how to improve your communications skills and how to enhance your emotional intelligence.

Isn’t it time to relieve the Anger, Hostility and Violence and to have a more meaningful life with healthier relationships?

Please contact us at:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

Member, American Association of Anger Management Providers (AAAMP)

Is Your Anger Getting The Best Of You???

2010-04-02T16:30:00.000-07:00

You are the perfect candidate for Anger and Stress Management Intervention if you have recurrent episodes of angry outbursts or rage.

In Anger and Stress Management classes you will learn that anger is learned and as long as the angry responses are appropriate, that is not injurious physically or verbally to yourself or anyone else, they are quite normal.

You will learn how to control your anger, how to manage the stresses you face daily, how to improve your ability communications properly and how to enhance your emotional intelligence or the understanding of what other people mean in their conversations with you.

These classes will improve your angry behavior, improve your relationships with those you love, with your relatives, co-workers and friends, and with your clients or customers and employer. Also, over time, they will help to improve your health.

If you are ready to start the journey of your life, please contact us today.

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

COURT ORDERED ANGER MANAGEMENT

2010-03-29T17:14:00.000-07:00

Chronic anger can be costly to your physical well being, your self esteem and can sometimes land you in situations such as the court system where you will pay for the actions of your uncontrolled angry behavior. If you are ordered by the court to take an Anger Management Program as a result of your behavior or due to situations in your life, look for a program that will:

• Encourage you to recognize your uncontrolled behavior.
• Not judge you for being in an Anger Management Program.
• Encourage you on your quest to overcome inappropriate anger behavior.
• Offer a solid teaching environment.
• Be accepted by the courts.
• Be a diverse learning experience.
• Offer help in creating new behaviors to replace the old ones.
• Use a proven text book as the centerpiece of your anger management studies.
• Allow you to be part of a community in a live classroom setting.
• Have staff members who are Certified Anger Management Facilitators (CAMF).

Anger can be used in appropriate ways and in some situations can produce powerful and productive changes in your life. However, there can be a time when uncontrolled anger takes over your rational thought process and you end-up in a legal situation.

If you find yourself searching for a proven Anger Management Program, please give The WIN Institute a call and start your learning process today.

For more information, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The WIN Institute Blog Site

2010-03-27T11:24:00.000-07:00

You are invited to visit the new blog site for The WIN Institute at http://thewininstitute.blogspot.com.

Blogs are published periodically and offer insight into anger and stress related issues; Anger and Stress Management Intervention; various Anger and Stress Management topics; and assistance in understanding what Anger and Stress Management Intervention is all about.

If you have unresolved anger issues, unmanageable stress in your life and have been advised to get help, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
763-913-0130
http://www.thewininstitute.org
http://thewininstitute.blogspot.com

We are Members of The American Association of Anger Management Providers (AAAMP).

SOMEWHERE TO TURN TO IN MINNESOTA

2010-03-27T10:59:00.000-07:00

The WIN Institute, serving the greater Twin Cities area, is available to instruct you on how to control your anger and manage your stress. The instructor is Steven W. Clark, a Certified Anger Management Facilitator CAMF) and a Certified Domestic Violence Facilitator (CDVF). Mr. Clark is a Member of the American Association of Anger Management Providers (AAAMP).

Mr. Clark is also an approved provider for the Hennepin County Department of Community Corrections and Rehabilitation, Adult Field Services Division. His program is accepted for those mandated by the courts to take an Anger Management Intervention or Domestic Violence Intervention program.

Our curriculum is the Anderson & Anderson model (created by George Anderson, BCD, MSW, LCSW, CAMF, CDVF) for Anger Management Intervention and Domestic Violence Intervention training and is recognized by educators, government agencies and corporate HR departments around the world.

While stress and anger are normal and necessary components in our lives, these emotions sometimes cause unsuitable behavior which can reek havoc in our relationships at home with our families and loved ones, with friends, at work with our fellow employees, or in our professions.

The WIN Institute strives to enrich our client's lives by imparting practical knowledge for managing Stress and Anger, by improving Communication Skills and increasing Emotional Intelligence and thereby reducing the potential for violent and inappropriate behavior.

Here in Minnesota, help is available. There is a place to turn to for Anger and Stress Management Intervention Training.

For more information, please contact:

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDVF
The WIN Institute
763-913-0130
www.thewininstitute.org
www.thewininstitute.blogspot.com

The WIN Institute -- Press Release

2010-03-26T08:22:00.000-07:00

The WIN Institute has been approved as a provider of Anger Management Intervention and Domestic Violence Intervention.

The Hennepin County Department of Community Corrections, Adult Field Services – Probation Services North and South, has approved The WIN Institute to provide Anger Management and Domestic Violence Intervention programs for their court referred clients.

At The WIN Institute, we help people gain insight and awareness into flawed thinking and self-defeating patterns of behavior and actions. Each WIN Institute program gives our clients the tools they need to better understand themselves and to make life-changing decisions about their choices and their conduct. At The WIN Institute, we care deeply about the success of each individual and it is our mission to help change lives permanently and reduce recidivism.

This is accomplished by applying the cognitive-behavioral approach based on the Anderson & Anderson model developed by George Anderson using the workbooks “Gaining Control Of Ourselves” and “A Ray Of Hope”. Each workbook utilizes mini-lectures, homework assignments, quizzes, exercises, video vignettes, and group discussions.

The WIN Institute specializes in BRINGING OUT THE WINNER IN YOU by instructing our clients on how to manage their stress and anger; and how to alter their violent behavior.

For more information, please contact: Steven W. Clark, CAMF, CDVF at 763-913-0130; or visit us at www.thewininstitute.org.

Anger And Stress Management Sessions -- Twin Cities, Minnesota

2010-03-26T02:20:00.000-07:00

The WIN Institute is holding weekly class sessions in Anger and Stress Management Training in downtown Minneapolis. These class sessions are in groups of up to ten (10) persons or privately in one-on-one sessions. The class schedule is flexible with evening and weekend sessions. Accelerated sessions are also available.

Our Anger and Stress Management clients are accepted as ordered by the courts; as ordered by employers as a condition of continued employment or on a voluntary basis. Additionally, referrals by health and mental health providers are accepted.

The WIN Institute is an approved provided of Anger Management Intervention and Domestic Violence Intervention for Hennepin County. We are currently in the process of expanding to four (4) additional counties in Minnesota.

The WIN Institute does not offer therapy, psychotherapy, counseling or medication to identify and control anger related issues. We offer an educational and cognitive-behavioral program approach that has been proven to be extremely effective in helping an individual reach new levels of control over stress and anger related issues. The American Psychiatric Association (APA) has firmly categorized anger as a lifestyle issue, completely unresponsive to psychiatric treatment.

Steven w. Clark is a Certified Anger Management Facilitator (CAMF) and a Member of the American Association of Anger Management Providers (AAAMP). He can be reached at 763-913-0130 or via email at thewininstitute@yahoo.com.

The WIN Institute website is www.thewininstitute.org.

Steven W. Clark is also a Certified Domestic Violence Facilitator (CDMF).

Steven W. Clark, JD, CAMF, CDMF
The WIN Institute

The Need For Anger And Stress Management

2010-03-25T19:02:00.000-07:00

It has been said that “if you, your co-workers, family members or friends think that your anger is a problem, take it seriously and get the professional help you need. Anger is a normal human emotion. However, it is a problem when angry behavior impacts interpersonal relationships. You know you have a problem with anger when:

- Your anger is too frequent.
- Your anger is too intense.
- Your anger lasts too long.
- Your anger is causing health problems.
- Your anger is affecting your relationships.
- Your anger is leading to conflicts with others.
- Your anger is resulting in person or property directed aggression.

A Certified Anger Management Facilitator (CAMF) can teach you how to manage your anger, how to manage your stress, how to improve your communication skills and how to improve your emotional intelligence. Once you learn these new skills, your life and interpersonal relationships will improve dramatically.

Anger is a learned response to stress and is a normal emotion. It becomes abnormal when interpersonal relationships with loved ones or co- workers is jeopardized by inappropriate behavior.

Your motivation to take Anger and Stress Management training will allow you to enjoy a happier and more productive life with few anger related issues.